Learn the correct types of questions to ask a woman you like and you will master of the fine art of conversation.
So…What’s your deal?
This is NOT to be confused with a “pick-up” line, this one IS, however, a great way to transition from flirty banter into more meaningful conversation. It’s as open-ended as a question gets. You let her select what information she feels comfortable providing you with and let her talk about herself on her own terms. If you are uncomfortable asking this question, then don’t. You’ll know when the time is right to break this gem out!
What something I’d never guess by looking at you?
Again, this one is open-ended and allows for her to tell you what she wants, what she feels comfortable with sharing. It also gives you an insight into her that a lot of men might not have even after several dates. This is where the audacity of directness can really pay off.
What do you like about your job?
Don’t ask her where she works. Ask her what she likes about it. It’s both open-ended (seeing a pattern here?) and positive. Get her talking about things she likes. It will put her in a better mood than the other way around and she’ll associate that good mood with you.
What was it like where you grew up?
Again, don’t ask her where she grew up; Everyone else will, and besides, it’s got a one or two word answer. Instead, ask her to tell you about where she grew up. Get her talking and she’ll remember you as the guy who really cared about who she was last night.
How did you decide on your major?
A classic. Ask her why she decided to study what she studied in college. If there’s a simple answer to that question, we haven’t heard it yet. It’s also an outside-of-the-box type of question once you’re out of college.
What do you like about this place?
This is “do you come here often” for men who really know how to have a conversation. Again, we want to keep things positive, because she will associate this positivity with you. So ask her what it is she likes about where you guys are. Even if the answer is “not much” you two can have a good laugh about it.
What are you the most passionate about?
If there’s one thing that people like talking about, it’s their passions. What is she passionate about? She’ll be happy to tell you. You’ll sound like serious date material because you asked her a question that cuts to the heart of who she really is.
What’s a funny story about yourself that you never get to tell?
People love talking about themselves. What’s more, women rarely are invited to tell stories about themselves. This is another way to really get to know her in a single question. Believe us, she’ll notice.
How did you and her become friends?
This one is killer for when you’re talking to more than one woman at once. Ask about how the two of them became friends. You’ll learn about both of them at the same time. Whether you haven’t decided which one you prefer or you’re going in with a wing, this is how you knock it out of the park when talking to two at once.
Want to go have a drink at my place?
One that every man should get comfortable asking. You’re not asking her to spend the night, though it certainly is implied that that might happen if things go well. Invite her over for a drink and you establish yourself as a high value man who asks for precisely what he wants.
As you can see, there’s no magic trick when it comes to questions to ask a girl you like. It’s just about framing them the right way and a basic set of skills that any man can learn.