There’s nothing cool or manly about pretending to know something that you have no clue about. It will more-than-likely come back to bite you in the ass. It seems that us guys tend to think that it is a sign of weakness to ask others how to do something or how something works. But give it a try and you will find that people actually respect you much more when you ask for advice than they do by seeing you struggle and screw things up.
Nobody likes a know-it-all
Asking for directions, advice or information is a great way to ingratiate yourself with other people. In addition to increasing your knowledge base, you are doing the other person a great service by allowing them to share there knowledge and experience with you. And to that point, it is also a virtue to listen to people who are telling you something, without acting like you already know what they are telling you. EVEN if you already do. I know I am guilty of cutting people off when I THINK I KNOW what they are getting ready to say. As with most bad habits, it’s difficult to recognize that I’m even doing it.
Acknowledge their knowledge
Being conscience of how your responses are directing and affecting the exchange of ideas and information is a good practice. Let them know that what they are saying is valid and worthwhile. Responding with “Yeah, I know.” may seem innocuous, but it can be very off-putting. Now, I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t let people know that you are not an idiot and that you might actually be aware of what they are telling you, but the manner in which you do this, can make all the difference in the world. Instead of “Yeah man, I knew that already.” try “Yeah bro, isn’t it awesome how that works!” A subtle difference, yet amazingly effective.
It’s all about LISTENING
No matter the subject, it’s a safe bet that there’s something about the subject that you don’t know or perhaps haven’t considered. Every person you meet, every day of your life will know something that you don’t know. If you make it your mission to learn that “something”, you and that person will be better for it.